Divorce Coaching and Counseling
General Mental Behavioral Health Counseling

AREAS OF EXPERTISE

Collabortive Divorce Coaching
Workshops, Speaking Engagements, & Classes

Divorce Coaching and Counseling

​​Divorce coaching is future focused and goal oriented. It emphasizes moving you and your spouse from where you are now to where you want to be. In our work together the emphasis will be on developing and fostering interractions of respect, goodwill, and kindness to minimize the damage to individuals, eachother, and family. At it's best, divorce coaching affords the opportunity to identify and understand your part in the demise of the marriage (not blame) to gain wisdom to move forward.

Divorce Coaching helps you clarify your feelings so that you can participate more constructively in negotiations. It helps you identify and give voice to your needs so that, together with your spouse, you can create a mutually acceptable settlement agreement. As your coach I can help you think more clearly and navigate through your divorce in a more constructive manner.

​Individually or together, our work will help move you from old painful patterns to creating a happy and healthy life for yourself.
By helping you manage the tricky emotional side of divorce, a divorce coach may help you save time and money. I can also help you reduce the hurtful and unproductive emotional struggles that many couples get caught up in when they are going through a divorce. Below are some terms to become familiar with as you think through your process:

​​Clinical social work is a specialty practice area of social work which focuses on the assessment, diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of mental illness, emotional, and other behavioral disturbances. Individual, group and family therapy are common treatment modalities.

The goal of mental health professionals such as clinical social workers is generally to help people deal with problems in their lives. Clinical social workers help people talk through their problems and develop the coping strategies they need to deal with or resolve psychological and emotional issues.

Co-parenting, sometimes called joint parenting or shared parenting, is the experience of raising children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. However, placing the sole focus on your children can be a great way of helping to make co-parenting a positive experience

The definition of co-parenting is a process where two parents work together to raise a child even though they are divorced or separated and no longer live together. An example of co-parenting is when a divorced mother and father share legal and physical custody of their child.

Parallel parenting is an arrangement in which divorced parents are able to co-parent by means of disengaging from each other, and having limited direct contact, in situations where they have demonstrated that they are unable to communicate with each other in a respectful manner.

Collaborative Divorce Coaching

As Your Collaborative Coach I Will:

  • Encourage respectful listening
  • Help each of you gain perspective on the other’s point of view
  • Assist in formulating goals for your individual futures
  • Help you gather information about your hopes and goals for your children, and determine what both you and your spouse believe is best for them
  • Support you and your spouse in putting your children’s needs ahead of your own

By creating safe, open avenues of communication, a Collaborative Divorce Coach can help you reduce the expense, time and destructiveness of a divorce.
A Collaborative Divorce Coach is a divorce professional with a background in mental health. As a Certified Collaborative Divorce Coach and CLII Fellow I coordinate with your Collaborative Attorney to help you and your spouse recognize, negotiate and communicate your emotional concerns during the divorce process. I will help guide you through the emotional bottlenecks that often slow down progress during a divorce.

While as your coach I am also a Clinical Social Worker, I will not act as a therapist for either you or your spouse during your divorce. Collaborative Divorce Coaching is very different than therapy. For more information visit:  collablawil.org

A Collaborative Divorce Coach can help you avoid getting struck in inflexible positions by helping you identify what you really need from your divorce agreement. Pamela will redirect you and your spouse from focusing on blame to focusing on solutions.

General Mental Behavioral Health Counseling

Clinical social work is a specialty practice area of social work which focuses on the assessment, diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of mental illness, emotional, and other behavioral disturbances. Individual, group and family therapy are common treatment modalities. Social workers who provide these services are required to be licensed or certified at the clinical level in their state of practice and ought to have additional training to maintain and further skills. Therapy is an incredibly useful tool that helps with a range of issues.

My areas of treatment for adults includes:  Depression, Anxiety, Grief, Sudden Traumatic Loss, Divorce, Developmental Immaturity/Codependence, Relationship with a high conflict person, Infidelity, Self-worth and self-esteem, Adult struggles from childhood trauma, Women's Issues, Infertility, Marital conflict, Previous unsuccessful counseling experiences. Many different methods may be used to help you with the problems you hope to address and a plan of care and treatment approach will be discussed to make the most of your time and encompass strategies and tools that will apply to many life circumstances ahead. 

Mental Health/Behavioral Counseling is not easily described in general statements. It varies depending on the personalities of the counselor and client, and the particular problems. Counseling calls for a very active effort on your part. In order for the counseling to be most successful, you may benefit from working on things talked about both during your sessions and at home. Counseling sessions will typically be on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. Additional appointment times can be arranged on an as-needed basis. While every effort is made to remain on time an extended five or ten minutes may be necessary on some occasions and your understanding should appointments run over is greatly appreciated.

Counseling can have benefits and risks; there are no guarantees of what you will experience.​ It is often the case that your work with me will include skill-building materials and other resources tailored to your particular issues, goals, and, learning style. Actually, our work will be rewarding and at times, even enjoyable as you experience successes.

Since counseling often involves discussing unpleasant aspects of your life, you may experience uncomfortable feelings like sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, loneliness, and helplessness. On the other hand, counseling has also been shown to benefit people by leading them to better relationships, solutions to specific problems and significant reductions in feelings of distress. 

Workshops, Speaking Engagements, & Classes

  • ​​Adults having experienced childhood abuse and trauma
  • High tension, high conflict relationships
  • Divorce Support 
  • Sudden, Traumatic Loss
  • Forgiveness
  • Self-improvement and personal growth
  • Establishing and honoring healthy boundaries
  • Developmental Immaturity, Codependence
  • Women’s wellness